With this ring!

When I was a little girl I used to dream about getting married one day.  Where he would get down on one knee in front of family and friends and ask me to marry him.  Later in life I did get married, but not once did the price of the ring ever come into play.

Lately, there has been a picture circulating on Facebook regarding a ring that Kay Jewelers has on sale for $24.99. Most women have been voicing their disdain for such a ring, saying how they would not accept a ring that costs so little. Not accept the ring because it’s on sale? Really Ladies?

My feelings on this is that I find these women very appaling.   Even though the ring is only a symbol of the love and commitment that he has for you, it still should be respected.  The love that he feels on the inside is what’s most important.  The fact that he realized that the woman he chose is the ONE that he wants to spend the rest of his life with truly is amazing.

The symbol of his degree of love should not come with a price tag.  It shouldn’t matter if he paid $1 or $1,000 for the ring.

There are hundreds of women who have received a ring worth more than our homes and cars put together,  and have eventually found themselves either in divorce court or found themselves being mistreated and disrespected and some often abused, sadly.  The price tag that is now being attached to a man’s display of love is not fair in my opinion.

If this gentleman has taken the time to go out and search for something that will allow him to express his level of   dedication towards building a life with someone, and then it’s being devalued because of the pricetag; I happen to find it disgusting.

I remember my mother (Mildred) telling me how my father {Ralph} couldn’t afford a ring at the time {1953}. Being born in 1934, there wasn’t any place that a black man could buy an engagement ring from in Georgia in those days unless it was out of a gumball machine.

She said that he took a small piece of wire, twirled it into a circle and placed it on her finger and asked her to be his wife.  Of course, she happily said yes. Thankfully my parents were married for 47.5 years until my mother passed in 2000.  My mother never wore a ring, but she was just as happy being his wife and our mother as if she sported a 20 carat diamond ring.

My point is this, we tend to put more value on material things rather than putting more value into love and commitment and building a life together as these two people create something that is priceless.

A woman can have a rock on her finger that she would need help lifting, and be miserable and the woman who may have the ring worth $24.99 can end up being happier than she ever dreamed. That amount could have been all that he could afford at that time, and later on throughout the years he could very easily be doing much better and present her with the biggest rock she’s ever seen.

Let’s keep all things in their proper place, value what’s most important….LOVE.

“Despise not the humble beginnings.”